Transformation

Why does sex go wrong? (Part one)

Why does sex go wrong? (Part one)

Most people will have a bad sex story and it will probably have been more than just an embarrassment.  Sex is such a core aspect of who we are that we can be very sensitive to negative feedback… better fake it than lose face or expose a loved one. When sex is on the...

Why is sex so important?

Why is sex so important?

Sex is so important because it affects us in our bodies, our emotions, and relationships and can even expand our spirituality. Let’s look at some aspects of the biology of sex. Everyone came into being because two people had sex – our biological mother and father. Sex...

Pleasure aversion

Pleasure aversion

It is a sad fact that we are hard-wired for pain. Our old brain is constantly looking out for danger. Survival is its primary concern. It is a risk to enjoy pleasure because we have to relax… let go… and be vulnerable. You deserve it We meet pain from birth onwards...

What to do?

What to do?

Regrets can work away inside you like a worm in the heart. They are poisonous and give rise to festering resentment and bitterness. But they are common and we all have regrets. So what’s the remedy and how can you avoid them? I think regret can be a really positive...

The secret to a fulfilled life

The secret to a fulfilled life

Living in tune with your values is the key to a sense of personal fulfilment. Your values drive your desire for a meaningful life and they are an essential component of your sense of security. What are Values? Values are the qualities that we choose to express like...

Morals – do they exist?

Morals – do they exist?

No, because morals are the snapshot of our defended egos on the vast landscape of who we really are. I'll use the example of water I like my tea hot and my tap water cold… but does cold exist? Isn’t water either hot, cold or anywhere in-between? Well that is how we...

Shame on You!

Shame on You!

Shaming others is so cruel because it is such a toxic emotion. Why is it then that when we interact with others’ shame is an almost inevitable result? However, clearing the backdrop of shame that gets so easily triggered can help in moving towards clean and clear...

A Mindset for Growth

A Mindset for Growth

Personal development is what everyone should be into... completing the human life cycle. It happens without effort in our bodies but not in our souls. Just as we move from milk onto solids we need to move from a dualistic to a non-dualistic mindset. We arrive with a...

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